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Ex Libris

Anne Fadiman · 1998 · 9 ideas · 9 min

A lifelong devotion to books shapes identity, relationships, and even household order, and the physical, sometimes messy habits of serious readers reveal as much about them as the books' contents do.

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Why this book

Anne Fadiman argues, through a series of personal essays, that how a person reads, shelves, annotates, and physically treats books is inseparable from who they are, and that the seemingly trivial choices avid readers make — alphabetizing versus organizing by subject, writing in margins versus keeping pages pristine, merging a couple's libraries versus keeping them separate — carry real emotional and intellectual weight rather than being mere quirks. She draws on her own upbringing in a family of intensely bookish writers and editors to examine what she calls the "carnal" love of books as physical objects alongside the more familiar love of their contents.

This matters because it takes seriously an experience many devoted readers recognize but rarely examine directly: that books accumulate personal history through use, that a library is a kind of autobiography, and that decisions about books — which to keep, lend, mark up, or discard — function as small but genuine acts of self-definition and, in shared households, as sites of negotiation between people's different relationships to the printed word.

Who should read it

This collection is written for people who already love books and want to see their own habits — compulsive rereading, obsessive shelving systems, sentimental attachment to worn copies — articulated with wit and precision. It also appeals to writers interested in personal essay craft, since Fadiman is celebrated for her precise, playful prose style.

About the author

Anne Fadiman is an American essayist and journalist who edited The American Scholar and later taught writing at Yale; she grew up in a literary family, the daughter of writer and editor Clifton Fadiman.

The ideas

01Merging two people's libraries can be as fraught as merging their lives02There's a real difference between loving books as objects and loving what's written in them03Certain families build a shared vocabulary and identity entirely around books and words04Compulsively proofreading everything in sight is its own particular occupational hazard05Rereading a book across different life stages reveals how much the reader, not just the book, has changed06Choosing which books to keep or discard forces honest reckoning with who you actually are07Traveling with the right book can transform a place and become inseparable from the memory of it08Reading unusual reference material, like old catalogs or specialized dictionaries, can be its own genre of pleasure09Marginal notes turn a book into a private conversation between reader and author across time
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